Rabbits die when they are lonely - a phrase used in a drama about 30 years ago. Loneliness reduces a person's motivation and makes them feel strangely uncomfortable doing things that they would normally be able to do without any problems. Loneliness also makes people make mistakes because they cannot think properly.
 
Strategies to isolate adversary states by using such a situation against them are often seen in the international political scene. Allies work together to isolate and weaken a target state by cutting off relations with it, e.g. trade, personnel exchanges and financial flows. The target country, in turn, struggles to make friends with the enemy of its enemy. Like Japan during World War II, or Russia invading Ukraine.
 
Thus, loneliness is not only a negative aspect, but also an aggressive one. When you are lonely, you can take drastic action to build relationships in order to somehow get out of your current inferiority situation. It is like the strong spirit of a restructured uncle trying to come back from the bottom. On the other hand, in a stable, herded state, it is hard to imagine that they would bother to create new relationships with the psychological burden of possible rejection.
 
In any case, it is essential to maintain existing relationships and build new ones to avoid loneliness. Sometimes, there are unpleasant things said, or the atmosphere can become delicate because of talk that does not match their values. It is a necessary expense because the relationship is built on such burdens. It's as if it's a marriage service where expensive matching fees bring about a great match.
 
I also feel that the strength of the relationship does not necessarily have to be so strong and thick. It's good that it is, but when it is strong, the demands on the other person become higher, and there is a sense of disappointment when they are not fulfilled. It's like the disappointing ramen noodles that were surprisingly too ordinary despite their high rating on the internet. Also, sometimes you tell the truth for the sake of the other person and end up getting backlash.
 
When you say the right thing, you hurt those around you.　Noboru Takeshita
 
Meet a few times a year while maintaining a reasonable distance, and ask, for example, how was your year? Such gentle conversation warms the heart, and that's all that is needed. As mentioned at the beginning of this article, when people are lonely, their brains stop functioning normally. I think it is wonderful that you can easily talk to someone who can give you objective hints from a calm standpoint.