No.0134:Forgiveness - without being too caught up in the past

January 31,2025

 
The US Trump administration is on the move again. Many of his direct and indirect supporters who once opposed him with open hostility have changed their attitude and now follow him. Examples of this are the top executives of big tech companies, such as Elon Musk, who donated large sums of money to Trump, or his vice-president, Vance, who has been referred to as a mini Trump. In exchange for their loyalty, Trump appears to have forgiven the past and used them to his advantage. Although he appears to be a stubborn, obstinate man, his eagerness and flexibility to take advantage of available opportunities seems to be his great strength.
 
Yesterday's enemy is today's friend
Kinnikuman (Japanese animation hero)
 
A similar example of forgiveness in history is shown here. Tokugawa Ieyasu was betrayed by many of his subordinates during a rebellion in his territory. Ieyasu eventually put down the revolt, but he took generous measures and allowed those men who had betrayed him to return. In order to prevent the weakening of his own army. They included Honda Masanobu, who would later make a major contribution to Ieyasu's rise to power. Another story tells of an incident in which Ieyasu's eldest son, in whom he had high hopes for the future, was forced by Oda Nobunaga to commit seppuku (ritual suicide), which was greatly influenced by an unnecessary report to Nobunaga by Tokugawa No 2 Sakai Tadatsugu, in whom Ieyasu placed great trust. This was because Sakai was not on the same page as his eldest son. Nevertheless, Ieyasu continued to place great importance on Sakai afterwards. He believed that without him, the Tokugawa family would not be able to survive. It was a magnificent forgiveness.
 
In order to achieve great things, do not make a fuss about everything outside the main story, and try to keep things as calm as possible.
Tokugawa Ieyasu
 
Then I will talk about forgiveness in my everyday work. We don't feel comfortable if we don't do it ourselves. We can't give up my desire to be active. Even if We leave it to others, We always have to watch them. Because We can't help worrying about whether the other person is doing what I want.  Not a few people are like that. In fact, I also have such a tendency. I forgive myself for not doing things, don't interfere too much with the person I'm entrusting it to, and don't overstate things even if things don't go the way I want them to, it's happy for both parties (although it's important not to be too lenient...). By passing the baton to the next generation, both you and the other person can move on to the next stage.
  
I really feel that beautiful relationships are an illusion after the age of 50. There are good times and not so good times. It would be a great shame if the benefits that could be generated by future cooperation were to be lost because of a slight misunderstanding. I hope that I will not be too tied down by past ties, but will be as flexible as possible in dealing with what may happen in the future, with as much forgiveness as possible.
 
Patience is the basis of safety and longevity; anger is the enemy.
Tokugawa Ieyasu
A song from OASIS that is not locked in the past.