There are frequent news reports of suicides due to bullying. Bullying may be an inevitable part of human nature, whether small or large, in places where people gather such as schools, local communities, and workplaces. On the surface, they act like good people, but behind the scenes, they target weak people who may not have much influence on the surface, and bully them to death through insidious means.

This is a similar story. The Edo period is famous for its status system of samurai, farmers, craftsmen and merchants. However, in reality, there is a problem of "Dowa," which is an unpleasant and unpleasant situation that still remains in some places, where people are placed under the system and discriminated against to ease their daily complaints. I'm not good enough now, but I'm still better than them. It's a really disgusting way of thinking.
 
In addition to this, there is a group bullying method of beating the weak. This kind of bullying is not limited to children. In fact, adults seem to be more insidious, more subtle, and worse. So what should you do if you are unlucky to become the best  the target of such insidious bullying? I will write about it based on my own experience.
 
The first thing to do is not to worry about it alone, but to consult with others ( publicize it). This is effective for both the bully and the bullied in terms of stopping the bullying. Bullies are strangely afraid that the insidious things they do will be exposed to the public. This is because the people at the forefront of the bullying tend to be too sensitive to public opinion. Therefore, bullies tend to choose targets who will not accuse others of bullying, or who can be successfully dealt with even if they do. I used to feel uncomfortable talking to my teachers. I used to feel that it was somewhat unfair to tip off someone in a position of authority and delegate the solution to them. But now, I don't feel that way at all. I will proactively consult (or disclose) and try to resolve the situation. The bullying victim is not at fault, the bullies are at fault.
 
The person who is being bullied can also feel a little better just by talking to others about the situation. In addition, getting impartial advice from an objective third party can help you understand what you need to do to correct yourself, and it can also help you calmly accept and let go of the bully's lies and exaggerated attacks on you. It is very disappointing to be made to believe that you’re no good at all and to be blocked by the cunning attacks that deny you. In addition, with the help of others, the bullying itself may come to an end. On the other hand, nothing will change and the painful situation may continue for a while.
 
In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.

This can be done by moving, changing schools, or quitting your job.  While there are negative aspects such as cost, loss of income, loss of position, etc., it is a way to get away from the horrible scene and ensure safety. I used to put myself in very difficult situations because I was obsessed with the idea that I had to stay here. When I let go of that obsession, the situation improved dramatically. Just as the Jews, who were not allowed to own land, became wealthy by sophisticating a business that did not require it. I don't think it's a shame to run away.  It is necessary in some situations. The first and foremost priority is to stay alive. Because of this experience, I try to refrain from being too obsessed to my income, position, location, or relationships.
 
Balance between fight and flight.
 
It is also important to keep evidence of the damage, although it is a clerical matter. Nowadays, with the advancement of IT, things that would have cost a tremendous amount of money not so long ago can now be done with a little knowledge and money. For example, security cameras, smart phones, and even smart watches such as the apple watch can be used to record everything that happens. By filming and recording (sound) the damage, you can ensure the objectivity of your claims in case you need to negotiate for compensation with a third party later. It is often expected that the bully will try to protect themselves by adapting the facts to suit themselves or even bluffing. Claims and counter-claims based on evidence (facts) lead to one's own righteousness. In addition, it is effective to let the opponent know that you are recording the information in order to curb their behavior.On the other hand, you should store the information you have collected for a long time, rather than releasing it in small amounts, to throw your opponent off guard. It is good to be highly aware of the way of spreading out all the information at the critical moment.  Just like a cunning politician who saves the scandalous stories of his political opponents, and when the time comes for a political battle, he cuts the cards for his political opponents who are attacking him.
 
In tactics, such as the other party does not know what to want to fight back, I want to fight the power.

Finally, it is in my experience that insidious people who take the lead in bullying are weak in one-on-one situations. Therefore, they will form a group, create a numerical advantage, and then attack the target. In order to deal with this kind of person, you need to keep in mind the things mentioned above, and make the insidious person feel that "this person is kind of creepy and might get into trouble" instead of "it's okay to do anything to him. We also want to be strong (and insensitive) by being flexible and not being obsessive. As you prepare yourself in this way, you can become stronger and stronger little by little. Because the world is big, and depending on your way of thinking, you can create a place for yourself anywhere.
 

You don't know what you're missing,Nowhere Man, the world is at your command.